When was the last time you properly communicate with your family/friends/loved ones?
It's so sad to see that the technology today actually moves people further away from one another, when its purpose of creation is to close the world gap.
Ah, I am not talking about kids staying at home
chaogei whole day and forgot how to socialize in real world.
(Although that probably is one of the point, but I am not elaborating on it)
Ages ago, people knew the need to communicate.
First through smoke-signalling (Well, I don't know the proper term for it so yea.)
Then came telegraphing and posting.
When people require faster and instantaneous communication, phone was mass produced (Ah yes, we 90s probably never experience mailing a letter).
Then to make calling easier, cellphones was borned.
*Correction: It should be "born" I dunno what the hell I was typing before LOL*
And then when people needed to see each other's face while talking, 3G came.
Yet when people require further updates on each others' life, all the social media started booming.
Technology & Communication Today
Today, we live in an era where
communication can be done almost anytime, anywhere. Even if your friend is 12 hours away from you, facebook, twitter, whatsapp, skype etc etc etc made it possible for you to connect with them instantaneously at almost zero cost. Of course, provided you have a computer...(oh wait, computer era is moving to its end, I guess people fancy mobility today. Here goes the creation of your laptop, and smartphones, and all the whatever pad or tabs)
So, internet today has made communication so easy, to the extend that we don't find the need to feel sad over graduation, or seeing your friends off at the airport, etc etc. Perhaps we no longer fear separation as we know we can communicate anytime, anywhere.
And that's why we slowly forgot the need to communicate.
Communication Procrastination?
So here's a question for you readers:
How many times have you procrastinated catching up with people?
"Oh his face poped up at my home page, how long has it been since I last talked to him? Ah well, I will probably talk to him next time, cause' I'm busy right now." And then you forget.
or
"She looks so down, probably I should comfort her, but well, I have things to do, maybe later..." And then she's offline, then you told yourself "maybe next time".
Well probably it makes sense because you are busy, but don't you think that
the fact we can communicate whenever we want diluted the need to communicate?
The need to communicate is no longer as dire as it used to be, cause' we all think that "We can still do that later".
In the past, when an old friend called, we would just put down all our work and have a 30 minutes or even 1 hour chat over the phone.
Or maybe when some friend just suddenly call for a hang out, you will just leave your house forgetting all your piling work.
From Friends to Strangers
Do you sometimes have the feel like a friend who was once so close to you, now has became a stranger that you only see his/her update on facebook? And then you ask yourself how did it happen.
Or maybe I am the only one feeling it?
Or do you still live in the illusion that you are still close?
How many times have you find yourself catching up with your best friend, and only to find out you know nothing about him/her when you two meet? The akward moment when you got nothing to talk to your best friend.
My friend, friendship needs to be nurtured. If you find the sudden urge to talk to someone, do it now. When you procrastinate, day by day, one day you will find a gap so big that you no longer know what to talk to your once-best-friend.
Ditch your shit friends
And do be reminded that, communication requires two-way effort. Probably you bugging him/her to catch up everytime will backfire or even irritate him/her. If one side has no willingness to commit in the friendship, might as well become a hi-bye friend with him/her.
***Author's note: Okay, you probably should just stop here. Below are some thoughts that I need to let loose so it might just be some nonsense that doesn't make sense to you***
DO BE WARNED! CONTAINS USAGE OF STRONG WORDS. READ AT YOUR OWN RISK.
Seriously, friends like this doesn't worth your effort to maintain your friendship. Humans are weird creatures. When you bug them all the time, they feels superior. Then they will forget about you. Probably you being a little harder to reach might loosen their ego a little.
Yet you become a little distant to them, they will start complaining that you no longer care, and then shit happens when you argue. In an argument, the loser is always the one who cares more cause' you will ended up apologizing before they do.
Worst thing to do is being the only one in the GROUP who cares. Why? Taa-daa! You plan the outing, you plan their birthday, you initiate group skype, you start a convo, once your job is over, that's it. No rewards, no chocolate for you. They just FORGET about you. If you just stop doing this, they will happily forget each others' birthday and forgot to talk to each other. True story. Then probably one or two will blame you for not planning his/her birthday so yea.
That's a shit job. So don't lower yourself to that level. Life's too precious to care about these people. They are never there for you when you need them, you're just a nobody in their eyes. They wouldn't need you to talk to them, or probably they are HAPPY with the fact that you're not talking to them. Ah gosh, why do these people exist at the first place? So DITCH these "so called friends" seriously.
